*Saving Monogamous Marriages*

According to Buss's in his article he simply wanted to examine evolutionary predictions about sex differences and see "whether men desire youth and physical attractiveness and whether women desire status and economic security" (Beedles 264). It is common to say that Buss's statement is true but that would be stereotyping all men and women in that category, which I find not fair since all individuals are different and don't think alike. It is safe to say that women do want security and want a man who can protect them not only physically but financially as well. Wrights mentions that "human beings are designed to fall is love, but aren't designed to stay there" ( Beedles 280). I definitely agree that everyone at some point in their life falls in love, but that person they fell in love with may not be the person that is necessary right for them. I highly stand to the importance of preserving heterosexual, monogamous marriages because it is important to our families and our future generations. It is what humans were made to do. According to the Book of Genesis of the bible, the first man and woman was created by God thus forming "Adam and Eve". The history of "Adam and Eve" is the major reason to why men and women are magnetically attracted to each other, which than creates short-term or long-term relationships with the opposite sex. It is not a surprise that people in relationships let alone in marriages have problems, it is the way life is, everyone one has problems and disagreements were just not made the same. We are all uniquely different from each other, not one person thinks the same, so it is expected to have differences.

From my experience and most women we grow up believing in fairy tale stories and happily every endings. You expect that your true love is out there and once found the two of you will get married, have kids, and live a wondering happy marriage that last forever and forever. I at least thought that when I was a little girl but obviously as I got older I understood the work that relationships need to be successful. "Despite their best intentions and vows of lifelong love, half of all married couples end up divorcing" (Beedles 262). This is not surprising because in this generation divorce rates are at its highest than it was years ago especially around our ancestors time. According to Darwin's theory of sexual selection there are two key processes by which evolutionary change can occur. Those two keys are the preferences for a mate and competition for a mate. Meaning once you obtain a mate you most consistently fulfill his or her needs and wants and make sure you retain the mate because if you don't there is always someone else ready to take your place.

The overall importance of preserving monogamous marriages is passing down the family line. Being able to pass genes and keeping the generation of family continuing and expanding, in my opinion is very important. If we took that a way our whole concept of living would no longer be of existence. We can not let the bad times change our natural way of living. I think people give up to quickly on fixing the issues they have within their marriage. Obviously there are times when it is a must to get rid of a mate especially if they are experiencing inflicted physical and/or psychological abuse from their significant other. "Divorce is a human universal that occurs in all known cultures" (Beedles 271). Divorce is so common now in our society that it seems to be getting more accepted. I ask myself, should it be? I think people need to wait longer before the rush into relationships and pursue marriage. Getting to know the other sex is important because were two uniquely different people and that alone causes issues but I think if we are capable of dealing and negotiating disagreements we can preserve monogamous relationships.