It is safe to say that music plays a big role in people's life one way or another. Music is an artistic form that is used to help express a persons creativity. Every body listens to music whether its hip hop, classical, pop, salsa, country, or jazz. Music has been around in most cultures for decades. Music helps bring family members and friends closer and the music gives them the ability to create lifetime memories through music and dance. When listening to music it generally creates a sense of letting loose and having fun. Your able to dance and expressively show emotions through your movements or music.
Being that music is an artistic tool it should be used however the person creating it feels free in doing so. Critics or other people's opinions should not matter. The reality of the music industry or for any industry is that "sex" sells! Having the ability to promote sexiness is one good key to making money. Whether people feel negative or in favor for certain music videos, songs, clothing, shoes, or lyrics, the reality is that it is freedom of speech. People have the right to say what they want to say. In my opinion I think critics make songs sell even more because they are not afraid to say what the public feels. They get to both the good or bad if any at all on the song and portray it has either good or bad music. Depending on what critics say most people buy CD's based on their remarks to the music, so the critics have a big part in the music industry. It is no secret that this is the reason major corporations want to get involved with large music people because it is a way for them to make money.
I would have to agree that women do get more powerful or at least have the sense of being more powerful by using their sexuality as a means to make their music more popular to sellers. If men can model and show their assets than why can't women? Not saying nudely has to be involved but there is nothing wrong about a women having power because there good at what they do, lets take Beyonce as an example. She is a mega star and one of the most outstanding performers out in the music business right now. She has truly made a name for herself and has stated that she is not going anywhere through her music and dance. It is obvious that she will continue to flourish and will do so in a classy way as she has been. Overall, "sex" sells and it is what some and most music artist have to do to promote themselves and there music.
Thursday, October 29, 2009
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Bad day for my Grandfather!
It was a sunny, windy evening on a Thursday night in June when my brother had a baseball game. The entire family attended the game being that it was one of the all-star games and it meant a lot to my brother that everyone went to show support. My brother always seemed to get nervous on game days and it seemed like he would transfer that nervousness to my grandfather because he too could never stay still. It would make the family feel uneasy when my grandfather would walk around because he has been sick for a while now and his condition is getting worse and it is hard for him to get around sometimes. It is a little scary! Being that my grandfather is sick means nothing to him, because he never lets his sickness get in the way of him having the opportunity to show up to his grandkids functions.
My brother had won the game that evening and my brother and the entire family decided to go out for dinner to celebrate his victory. We decided to go to Peter Piper Pizza which is normally where we eat our pizza because most of the family loves the pizza from there. We had all arrived at Peter Piper Pizza and began to order what everybody wanted. When we had finished ordering we all left to go find a big table so the whole family could sit together. Once we had got the table we all began to sit down and enjoy one another conversations. What we thought was a good and sunny day suddenly changed to one of the scariest days. My grandfather went to go sit down on his chair when it suddenly clasped and completely broke causing him to fall hard to the floor. My husband was closes to him so he quickly ran to him and started to help him up. I was so scared I ran to help pick up my grandfather, at first I did not know what to do, being that I was still in shock. As we were picking him up, my poor grandfather was moaning in pain saying he was hurting but did not know what was wrong. I could not believe that no manager came out to see how my grandfather was doing; I literally had to go get someone and show them the incident. This wonderful customer who luckily was around happens to be a nurse and ran over to evaluate my grandfather. We ended up calling 911 for assistance and they came out and picked him up to take him to the hospital.
Once he got to the hospital they evaluated him being that he is high risk with his heart and health conditions but once over looked it turned out that he had broken his arm and was bruised from the hard fall he encountered. Peter Piper Pizza never said anything nor did anything about the situation which made most of the family mad. They tried to blame the incident on my grandfathers weight but that was a false claim being that my grandfather did not weight that much and was in fact the normal weight that he should be at his age or at least that is what the doctor said. My grandparents pursued a lawsuit with the company hoping to help with medical bills that he endured while being treated for his injuries. That day was not a good one although it started out as one. My grandfather has completely recovered from his injuries but will never go to Peter Piper Pizza anytime soon.
My brother had won the game that evening and my brother and the entire family decided to go out for dinner to celebrate his victory. We decided to go to Peter Piper Pizza which is normally where we eat our pizza because most of the family loves the pizza from there. We had all arrived at Peter Piper Pizza and began to order what everybody wanted. When we had finished ordering we all left to go find a big table so the whole family could sit together. Once we had got the table we all began to sit down and enjoy one another conversations. What we thought was a good and sunny day suddenly changed to one of the scariest days. My grandfather went to go sit down on his chair when it suddenly clasped and completely broke causing him to fall hard to the floor. My husband was closes to him so he quickly ran to him and started to help him up. I was so scared I ran to help pick up my grandfather, at first I did not know what to do, being that I was still in shock. As we were picking him up, my poor grandfather was moaning in pain saying he was hurting but did not know what was wrong. I could not believe that no manager came out to see how my grandfather was doing; I literally had to go get someone and show them the incident. This wonderful customer who luckily was around happens to be a nurse and ran over to evaluate my grandfather. We ended up calling 911 for assistance and they came out and picked him up to take him to the hospital.
Once he got to the hospital they evaluated him being that he is high risk with his heart and health conditions but once over looked it turned out that he had broken his arm and was bruised from the hard fall he encountered. Peter Piper Pizza never said anything nor did anything about the situation which made most of the family mad. They tried to blame the incident on my grandfathers weight but that was a false claim being that my grandfather did not weight that much and was in fact the normal weight that he should be at his age or at least that is what the doctor said. My grandparents pursued a lawsuit with the company hoping to help with medical bills that he endured while being treated for his injuries. That day was not a good one although it started out as one. My grandfather has completely recovered from his injuries but will never go to Peter Piper Pizza anytime soon.
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Week 8 blog reviews
Krista:
No post for 10/13
Ray of light
This posting was very easy to read. Everything from your structure and concepts flowed nicely throughout the entire post. You answered the question thoroughly giving detail information to support your ideas. I think you are great writer. I would have like to see more of what you thought on the topic of people not agreeing with the natural perspective of homosexuality.
Aubrie:
The science of dating
Your posting was organized well. I liked how you referred to Disney characters to explain true love fairy tales, those will always be great movies! I would have liked you to relate more with article in explaining your ideas. Do not get me wrong you did relate to the article but in your posting, you had good information, I just would have like to read more into to it. Overall, it was a good well-written posting.
Jungle to Jacksonville
I love this posting. You had so much information that it kept me intrigued throughout the whole time I was reading. I think you used the quotes very well and in places that supported your ideas. I like how you kept open mind to what is natural and what isn’t when relating to animals, human and homosexuality. Very good job.
Jade:
Happy every after
Your post was well written. From beginning to end all the information was structured very well. They way you used quotes to support your ideas really fell in and gave me a better understanding to your concept. I agree that we grow up thinking there is a prince charm out in the world but what we think is completely different to reality. Good job, really liked your post.
To be or not to be.
This post was interesting. I liked how you structured your concept and ideas. I like how you explained the authors approach to the subject and than proceeded to explain with your ideas. The quotes that you added in return helped support your ideas. Overall, this post was well written. Good job
No post for 10/13
Ray of light
This posting was very easy to read. Everything from your structure and concepts flowed nicely throughout the entire post. You answered the question thoroughly giving detail information to support your ideas. I think you are great writer. I would have like to see more of what you thought on the topic of people not agreeing with the natural perspective of homosexuality.
Aubrie:
The science of dating
Your posting was organized well. I liked how you referred to Disney characters to explain true love fairy tales, those will always be great movies! I would have liked you to relate more with article in explaining your ideas. Do not get me wrong you did relate to the article but in your posting, you had good information, I just would have like to read more into to it. Overall, it was a good well-written posting.
Jungle to Jacksonville
I love this posting. You had so much information that it kept me intrigued throughout the whole time I was reading. I think you used the quotes very well and in places that supported your ideas. I like how you kept open mind to what is natural and what isn’t when relating to animals, human and homosexuality. Very good job.
Jade:
Happy every after
Your post was well written. From beginning to end all the information was structured very well. They way you used quotes to support your ideas really fell in and gave me a better understanding to your concept. I agree that we grow up thinking there is a prince charm out in the world but what we think is completely different to reality. Good job, really liked your post.
To be or not to be.
This post was interesting. I liked how you structured your concept and ideas. I like how you explained the authors approach to the subject and than proceeded to explain with your ideas. The quotes that you added in return helped support your ideas. Overall, this post was well written. Good job
Thursday, October 15, 2009
Is Homosexuality Natural??
For many years homosexuality seems to be an uprising lifestyle within our communities. Even though it has been around for all these years it seems to be gradually becoming more comfortable for the gay community to show their ideal lifestyle freely. For many years people have been trying to understand the concept of homosexuality, linking it to causes such as error within their chromosomes (genetics problems) and/or something they are born with. Whatever the issue may be to what causes a person to become homosexual it seems to be more common in our society but yet still viewed as an abnormal behavior. People immediately accept the notion that men and women belong together, but yet are not open to the acceptance of same sex relationships. In the article, The Gay Side of Nature by Jeffrey Kluger he presents a scientist by the name of Bruce Bagemihl who wrote a book called Biological Exuberance which attempts to explain the rationality behind homosexuality and the similarities between animal and human sexuality.
"What humans share with so many other animals, it now appears, is freewheeling homosexuality" (Kluger 337). Bruce Bagemihl discovered that the animal kingdom is sexually complex acting routinely with male-female pairs but also with male-male and female-female pairs (Kluger 338). Bagemihl findings explain to some degree what is believed to be "natural" within the human behavior. If giraffes, goats, birds, bonobos, and dolphins can be sexually and physically attractive to one another than why couldn't this apply to human beings? This is the question Bagemihl is trying to answer using animals because animals and humans are both mammals which then makes us similar to each other. Bagemihl mentions that this diversity is part of our human heritage. He argues that if animals naturally bond with the same sex, then humans have that same ability. Bagemihl goes on to explain that understanding the acts of nature (animal kingdom) can help explain the human behavior. This discovery can be beneficial for those in support of this lifestyle because homosexuality is suggested in other words as a "natural" form of expressing your sexuality and free choice.
The topic of sexual identity and homosexuality will continue to be a debate now and for many years to come. Most people are free minded and are open to this topic but yet there are still those who oppose this subject and find it as a wrong act. Regardless of the opinions people have this lifestyle will continue to flourish. In my opinion, it shouldn't matter on a person's sexuality. What I ask myself is how does it physically effect your life? If it doesn't then there should not be a problem. While the discovery of same sex pairs amongst animals is seen as a positive thing for those in support of this lifestyle, those against it on the other hand will still disagree that homosexuality should not be considered a "natural" behavior for humans. It depends on the individual but it is definitely a personal choice and belief. Bagemihl stands firm in saying, "that if homosexuality comes naturally to other creatures, perhaps it's time to quit getting into such a lather over the fact that it comes naturally to humans too" (Kluger 338). I high agree to his statement!
"What humans share with so many other animals, it now appears, is freewheeling homosexuality" (Kluger 337). Bruce Bagemihl discovered that the animal kingdom is sexually complex acting routinely with male-female pairs but also with male-male and female-female pairs (Kluger 338). Bagemihl findings explain to some degree what is believed to be "natural" within the human behavior. If giraffes, goats, birds, bonobos, and dolphins can be sexually and physically attractive to one another than why couldn't this apply to human beings? This is the question Bagemihl is trying to answer using animals because animals and humans are both mammals which then makes us similar to each other. Bagemihl mentions that this diversity is part of our human heritage. He argues that if animals naturally bond with the same sex, then humans have that same ability. Bagemihl goes on to explain that understanding the acts of nature (animal kingdom) can help explain the human behavior. This discovery can be beneficial for those in support of this lifestyle because homosexuality is suggested in other words as a "natural" form of expressing your sexuality and free choice.
The topic of sexual identity and homosexuality will continue to be a debate now and for many years to come. Most people are free minded and are open to this topic but yet there are still those who oppose this subject and find it as a wrong act. Regardless of the opinions people have this lifestyle will continue to flourish. In my opinion, it shouldn't matter on a person's sexuality. What I ask myself is how does it physically effect your life? If it doesn't then there should not be a problem. While the discovery of same sex pairs amongst animals is seen as a positive thing for those in support of this lifestyle, those against it on the other hand will still disagree that homosexuality should not be considered a "natural" behavior for humans. It depends on the individual but it is definitely a personal choice and belief. Bagemihl stands firm in saying, "that if homosexuality comes naturally to other creatures, perhaps it's time to quit getting into such a lather over the fact that it comes naturally to humans too" (Kluger 338). I high agree to his statement!
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
Week 7 Blog Reviews
Krista:
You Aren't Listening!
I think you did a very good job with this post. You are an outstanding writer. I liked that you summarized Tannen's ideas into your post rather than using quotes throughout your entire post. When you did use quotes you used them at it's best because it made your points stronger. The format of the post was good. I especially liked how you gave a brief summary of the article in the beginning, than focused on some of Tannen's theories, than gave a real-life example to help illustrate these theories, and finally ended the post with a well conclusion wrapping up the ideas and concepts all together. Overall, you did very well!
Working Through it
You defined evolutionary psychology very well in your post. I like how you touched based on the subject of cheating and infidelity. This topic alone is an emotional issue and has many opinions as well. I definitely agree that cheating is one of many issues to the cause of divorce within today's society. The use of citations and summarizing that you gave made your post flow very well and was very interesting. You are a strong writer! Good Job!
Jade:
Just being a Male can be deceitful
The post itself flowed nicely. You used good ideas and theories to get you point across. The post seemed personal even though you used some of Tannen's theories. To clear up my last statement is was more of your opinion but your opinion was well stated in the post which made it interesting and easy to follow. Overall, you did a good job.
Till "Divorce" Do us Part...
This post was very well written. It was very interesting and easy to follow. The citations you used complement your thoughts and ideas very well. The conclusion was good and had strong stance in what you believed. I have to say that the beginning was a little rocky and confusing but as the post went on I began to understand the approach you were going. You did very good.
Aubrie:
Lost in Translation
I think you gave a good example to help support you ideas and thoughts. In the beginning I was not sure if you used the article in your post so I had to scroll down to see if you did. Once I saw that you did about half way down I went back to the top and read over once again. The post flowed well. The only comment I have is maybe to use the article in the beginning of your post where you develop your thesis, so the reader can get a better understanding of the direction your choosing. Another would be to strengthen your conclusion, the ending seemed short and dry. You are a good writer and the post overall was very good! :)
Is Monogamy the key?
I loved this post! This one was very well written, especially the thesis. I agree that marriages can be difficult but just because they are difficult does not mean a person or couple should quit with relationships. You made good points and the citations that you used compliments your thoughts and ideas very well.. Good job!
You Aren't Listening!
I think you did a very good job with this post. You are an outstanding writer. I liked that you summarized Tannen's ideas into your post rather than using quotes throughout your entire post. When you did use quotes you used them at it's best because it made your points stronger. The format of the post was good. I especially liked how you gave a brief summary of the article in the beginning, than focused on some of Tannen's theories, than gave a real-life example to help illustrate these theories, and finally ended the post with a well conclusion wrapping up the ideas and concepts all together. Overall, you did very well!
Working Through it
You defined evolutionary psychology very well in your post. I like how you touched based on the subject of cheating and infidelity. This topic alone is an emotional issue and has many opinions as well. I definitely agree that cheating is one of many issues to the cause of divorce within today's society. The use of citations and summarizing that you gave made your post flow very well and was very interesting. You are a strong writer! Good Job!
Jade:
Just being a Male can be deceitful
The post itself flowed nicely. You used good ideas and theories to get you point across. The post seemed personal even though you used some of Tannen's theories. To clear up my last statement is was more of your opinion but your opinion was well stated in the post which made it interesting and easy to follow. Overall, you did a good job.
Till "Divorce" Do us Part...
This post was very well written. It was very interesting and easy to follow. The citations you used complement your thoughts and ideas very well. The conclusion was good and had strong stance in what you believed. I have to say that the beginning was a little rocky and confusing but as the post went on I began to understand the approach you were going. You did very good.
Aubrie:
Lost in Translation
I think you gave a good example to help support you ideas and thoughts. In the beginning I was not sure if you used the article in your post so I had to scroll down to see if you did. Once I saw that you did about half way down I went back to the top and read over once again. The post flowed well. The only comment I have is maybe to use the article in the beginning of your post where you develop your thesis, so the reader can get a better understanding of the direction your choosing. Another would be to strengthen your conclusion, the ending seemed short and dry. You are a good writer and the post overall was very good! :)
Is Monogamy the key?
I loved this post! This one was very well written, especially the thesis. I agree that marriages can be difficult but just because they are difficult does not mean a person or couple should quit with relationships. You made good points and the citations that you used compliments your thoughts and ideas very well.. Good job!
What's Chemistry got to do with Love!!
Love is credited for life's greatest moments, yet blamed for the most crushing sorrows (Brownlee 295). Love is what "makes the world go round"! It is the most used emotion that human beings experience and most importantly is essential to our human existence. One might ask, what is love and why is it so mysterious? I believe love means a lot more than just obtaining a marriage certificate or spending thousand of dollars on a wedding ceremony, a lot more goes into the process of following in love. In Brownlee's article Biochemistry-What's Chemistry Got to do With it? and Fisher's article After all, Maybe It's...Biology, gives numerous examples to understanding why human beings fall in love.
Love is not always what you see in movies, whereas people fall in love at first sight and live happily ever after. Instead love is caused by a chemical called oxytocin which fosters the bond between mothers and children and is said to be the fuel to romantic love(Brownlee 295). The oxytocin acts as a neurotransmitter, or chemical messenger to help guide the behavior that creates the emotion love. Another love messenger in the brain are the endorphins (the body's own version of drugs). The high levels of endorphins induce a state of happy relaxation, making "researchers believe the power of endorphins to affect mood may play a crucial role in bonding" (Brownlee 297). Passionate, love affects the entire human body by making the stomach turn, increasing heat rate, making the inner palms sweat, etc. These sensations come from the vagus nerve. The vagus nerve "signals between our innards and our brains, conveying information upward about our internal state and sending orders down from the brain to the heart, the stomach, the lungs, and the sex organs" (Brownlee 297). According to Brownlee, love is impossible without the vagus nerve, which then makes it essential to the human body.
Human beings are very similar to animals especially the way we establish mates and love. Most people believe that love is a natural emotion that comes to them in time when it applies but it is not really a natural emotion, instead its a learned trait. What people do not realize is that they use this trait quite frequently but are not aware of its processes. For instances when women flirt they smile at their admirer, open their eye wide to gaze at him, and as the women walks away she tilts her head down giggling nervously hoping her admirer approaches her. I do not think woman are aware that they do these things its more of an instinct or learned act that they use in aid to attract the opposite sex. According to Fisher, "eye contact between the sexes is permitted, men and women often stare intently at potential mates for about two to three seconds during which their pupils may dilate" (Fisher 300). The dilate in the eyes is a sign that there is extreme interest between two people who gaze that long to each other. You cannot simply ignore other people who have fixed eyes on you, its impossible, you must respond. The gaze triggers emotions from the brain called approach or retreat.
The human body as I have pointed out has some chemistry and biological explanations to why human beings fall in love and are attracted to the opposite sex. Knowing scientific explanations can change human beings perception of what love is and how it forms. I have always thought that love can be obtain thought "love at first sight", or love could happen with anybody anywhere. I always thought love was unexplainable, it just happened and if it did it was meant to be. Understanding how and why love is formed can change our cultural traditions. They way we look at people would considerably change, it would be more on materials and physical appearance then the inner soul. I think love should stay mysterious and fairy tale-like because it makes the relationship more interesting and fun. It gives individuals possibilities and the existence to love someone for themselves than for their physical appearances or material objects. Love is a great felling, at times you can't live with it but yet you can't live without it!
Love is not always what you see in movies, whereas people fall in love at first sight and live happily ever after. Instead love is caused by a chemical called oxytocin which fosters the bond between mothers and children and is said to be the fuel to romantic love(Brownlee 295). The oxytocin acts as a neurotransmitter, or chemical messenger to help guide the behavior that creates the emotion love. Another love messenger in the brain are the endorphins (the body's own version of drugs). The high levels of endorphins induce a state of happy relaxation, making "researchers believe the power of endorphins to affect mood may play a crucial role in bonding" (Brownlee 297). Passionate, love affects the entire human body by making the stomach turn, increasing heat rate, making the inner palms sweat, etc. These sensations come from the vagus nerve. The vagus nerve "signals between our innards and our brains, conveying information upward about our internal state and sending orders down from the brain to the heart, the stomach, the lungs, and the sex organs" (Brownlee 297). According to Brownlee, love is impossible without the vagus nerve, which then makes it essential to the human body.
Human beings are very similar to animals especially the way we establish mates and love. Most people believe that love is a natural emotion that comes to them in time when it applies but it is not really a natural emotion, instead its a learned trait. What people do not realize is that they use this trait quite frequently but are not aware of its processes. For instances when women flirt they smile at their admirer, open their eye wide to gaze at him, and as the women walks away she tilts her head down giggling nervously hoping her admirer approaches her. I do not think woman are aware that they do these things its more of an instinct or learned act that they use in aid to attract the opposite sex. According to Fisher, "eye contact between the sexes is permitted, men and women often stare intently at potential mates for about two to three seconds during which their pupils may dilate" (Fisher 300). The dilate in the eyes is a sign that there is extreme interest between two people who gaze that long to each other. You cannot simply ignore other people who have fixed eyes on you, its impossible, you must respond. The gaze triggers emotions from the brain called approach or retreat.
The human body as I have pointed out has some chemistry and biological explanations to why human beings fall in love and are attracted to the opposite sex. Knowing scientific explanations can change human beings perception of what love is and how it forms. I have always thought that love can be obtain thought "love at first sight", or love could happen with anybody anywhere. I always thought love was unexplainable, it just happened and if it did it was meant to be. Understanding how and why love is formed can change our cultural traditions. They way we look at people would considerably change, it would be more on materials and physical appearance then the inner soul. I think love should stay mysterious and fairy tale-like because it makes the relationship more interesting and fun. It gives individuals possibilities and the existence to love someone for themselves than for their physical appearances or material objects. Love is a great felling, at times you can't live with it but yet you can't live without it!
Thursday, October 8, 2009
*Saving Monogamous Marriages*
According to Buss's in his article he simply wanted to examine evolutionary predictions about sex differences and see "whether men desire youth and physical attractiveness and whether women desire status and economic security" (Beedles 264). It is common to say that Buss's statement is true but that would be stereotyping all men and women in that category, which I find not fair since all individuals are different and don't think alike. It is safe to say that women do want security and want a man who can protect them not only physically but financially as well. Wrights mentions that "human beings are designed to fall is love, but aren't designed to stay there" ( Beedles 280). I definitely agree that everyone at some point in their life falls in love, but that person they fell in love with may not be the person that is necessary right for them. I highly stand to the importance of preserving heterosexual, monogamous marriages because it is important to our families and our future generations. It is what humans were made to do. According to the Book of Genesis of the bible, the first man and woman was created by God thus forming "Adam and Eve". The history of "Adam and Eve" is the major reason to why men and women are magnetically attracted to each other, which than creates short-term or long-term relationships with the opposite sex. It is not a surprise that people in relationships let alone in marriages have problems, it is the way life is, everyone one has problems and disagreements were just not made the same. We are all uniquely different from each other, not one person thinks the same, so it is expected to have differences.
From my experience and most women we grow up believing in fairy tale stories and happily every endings. You expect that your true love is out there and once found the two of you will get married, have kids, and live a wondering happy marriage that last forever and forever. I at least thought that when I was a little girl but obviously as I got older I understood the work that relationships need to be successful. "Despite their best intentions and vows of lifelong love, half of all married couples end up divorcing" (Beedles 262). This is not surprising because in this generation divorce rates are at its highest than it was years ago especially around our ancestors time. According to Darwin's theory of sexual selection there are two key processes by which evolutionary change can occur. Those two keys are the preferences for a mate and competition for a mate. Meaning once you obtain a mate you most consistently fulfill his or her needs and wants and make sure you retain the mate because if you don't there is always someone else ready to take your place.
The overall importance of preserving monogamous marriages is passing down the family line. Being able to pass genes and keeping the generation of family continuing and expanding, in my opinion is very important. If we took that a way our whole concept of living would no longer be of existence. We can not let the bad times change our natural way of living. I think people give up to quickly on fixing the issues they have within their marriage. Obviously there are times when it is a must to get rid of a mate especially if they are experiencing inflicted physical and/or psychological abuse from their significant other. "Divorce is a human universal that occurs in all known cultures" (Beedles 271). Divorce is so common now in our society that it seems to be getting more accepted. I ask myself, should it be? I think people need to wait longer before the rush into relationships and pursue marriage. Getting to know the other sex is important because were two uniquely different people and that alone causes issues but I think if we are capable of dealing and negotiating disagreements we can preserve monogamous relationships.
From my experience and most women we grow up believing in fairy tale stories and happily every endings. You expect that your true love is out there and once found the two of you will get married, have kids, and live a wondering happy marriage that last forever and forever. I at least thought that when I was a little girl but obviously as I got older I understood the work that relationships need to be successful. "Despite their best intentions and vows of lifelong love, half of all married couples end up divorcing" (Beedles 262). This is not surprising because in this generation divorce rates are at its highest than it was years ago especially around our ancestors time. According to Darwin's theory of sexual selection there are two key processes by which evolutionary change can occur. Those two keys are the preferences for a mate and competition for a mate. Meaning once you obtain a mate you most consistently fulfill his or her needs and wants and make sure you retain the mate because if you don't there is always someone else ready to take your place.
The overall importance of preserving monogamous marriages is passing down the family line. Being able to pass genes and keeping the generation of family continuing and expanding, in my opinion is very important. If we took that a way our whole concept of living would no longer be of existence. We can not let the bad times change our natural way of living. I think people give up to quickly on fixing the issues they have within their marriage. Obviously there are times when it is a must to get rid of a mate especially if they are experiencing inflicted physical and/or psychological abuse from their significant other. "Divorce is a human universal that occurs in all known cultures" (Beedles 271). Divorce is so common now in our society that it seems to be getting more accepted. I ask myself, should it be? I think people need to wait longer before the rush into relationships and pursue marriage. Getting to know the other sex is important because were two uniquely different people and that alone causes issues but I think if we are capable of dealing and negotiating disagreements we can preserve monogamous relationships.
Tuesday, October 6, 2009
He said/She said (WILL YOU LISTEN)!!
Disagreements are something mostly everyone has experienced at some point in their lifetime. Men and women are uniquely different and with that so is our communication level. According to Tannen women create relationships by exchanging secrets, and ultimately find conversations as a way of establishing friendships. Women want their husbands to be not only their lover but their best friend, in whom they can be themselves and discuss anything with. I could relate to this because I see my spouse as my best friend and the person I could share anything with and not be judge upon. Men establish friendships a lot differently than women by talking less and doing more active things together like sports,etc. Which can explain why some disagreements that my spouse and I have had end up the way they do.
The other evening I was at home relaxing with my spouse when I had brought up a conversation dealing with our vacation plans. We had planned a vacation a while back and it is coming up in the next couple of weeks and I was doing some last minute arrangements. I simply wanted his opinion on the type of excursions he would like to do on our vacation. I dislike it when I have to choose everything, its not fun! I like it to be 50-50 not just me making plans and he knows that. He actually is really good and giving me his input but I guess that particular day I got the impression like Tannen says, "He just doesn't care"! With my spouse not saying much on the topic and the body language he was giving made a disagreement occur. Now what could have been just on the vacation topic now turned into to "why are you ignoring me"? Everything went south all from a misunderstanding.
Tannen mentioned an example about a guy that would cover his eyes to concentrate on what his girlfriend was telling him so he can get a better understanding and listen properly. The girlfriend took it as if the boyfriend was playing around or suddenly going to sleep. This example that Tannen gives reminded me of my spouse and I because when I was talking to my spouse he began to lay down with his eyes closed as well. I took it as if he was ignoring me but when I asked him he said he was paying attention but I was not used to that body language. When we normally have conversations we mostly sit and look at each other and tell one another about our day. I was wrong about my spouses body language, I should have not jump to conclusions. Tannen's article on sex, lies, and conversation has great ideas to help resolve or at least explain the issues of disagreements between the opposite sex. Now that I know Tannen's ideas hopefully it can help me with disagreements in the future whether it be with my spouse or any individual of the opposite sex.
The other evening I was at home relaxing with my spouse when I had brought up a conversation dealing with our vacation plans. We had planned a vacation a while back and it is coming up in the next couple of weeks and I was doing some last minute arrangements. I simply wanted his opinion on the type of excursions he would like to do on our vacation. I dislike it when I have to choose everything, its not fun! I like it to be 50-50 not just me making plans and he knows that. He actually is really good and giving me his input but I guess that particular day I got the impression like Tannen says, "He just doesn't care"! With my spouse not saying much on the topic and the body language he was giving made a disagreement occur. Now what could have been just on the vacation topic now turned into to "why are you ignoring me"? Everything went south all from a misunderstanding.
Tannen mentioned an example about a guy that would cover his eyes to concentrate on what his girlfriend was telling him so he can get a better understanding and listen properly. The girlfriend took it as if the boyfriend was playing around or suddenly going to sleep. This example that Tannen gives reminded me of my spouse and I because when I was talking to my spouse he began to lay down with his eyes closed as well. I took it as if he was ignoring me but when I asked him he said he was paying attention but I was not used to that body language. When we normally have conversations we mostly sit and look at each other and tell one another about our day. I was wrong about my spouses body language, I should have not jump to conclusions. Tannen's article on sex, lies, and conversation has great ideas to help resolve or at least explain the issues of disagreements between the opposite sex. Now that I know Tannen's ideas hopefully it can help me with disagreements in the future whether it be with my spouse or any individual of the opposite sex.
Week 6 Blog Reviews
Jade: I haven't seen the movie Sorority Row yet, but I have seen previews of the movie and I cannot wait to watch it! I like how you detailed the movie in your posting. Even thought I have not seen the movie yet you gave me an idea through your descriptions on what I will be looking at. I agree with you that movies either have a significant other or accomplice with them while they are committing serious crimes. These types of story lines do make movies more interesting to watch.
Yes, it was interesting reading your post "cheers to the future" due to the fact we had the same subject but yet two different perspectives. I like the way you made your points relate to your examples, they fit very well. You mentioned great technology examples to back up your perspective. You did really good! I think your a good writer and can't wait to read your future postings.
Aubrie: I absolutely love the way you took your topic with the posting "the fracturing of the family" because it is completely different from mine. You give great detail in explaining the growth of our technology and have to agree that technology is definitely alienating us from family members. I cannot even remember the last time we took family pictures! Goes to show how much we rely on technology such as cell phones, computers, etc. You do a job at explaining this!
Sorry to say, but I have not seen the movie Troy yet. Although you gave such good detailed information of the movie that it pictures a great image in my mind. I am for sure going to rent it so that I can expand my image and knowledge of the movie so that I can get a better understanding of your concepts. You did do a good job with the article!
Krista: I like your ideas. You are right that cell phones are every where now a days! I admit I use my phone all the time, without it my day would not function correctly being that its way I communicate personally and work related. You gave good examples of how and why technology is expanding but the only thing I did not see was how it was in relation to gay or lesbian identity. I would have like to see your ideas on this subject and how you would of relate it! You did a good job!:) Look forwarded to more of your postings.
I haven't seen the movie Descent yet but I plan on renting it so I can get a better understanding of how you are relating your concepts and examples together. I think you outlined the movie very well. The outline gives my the ability to view in my mind what the movie would look like. I wish you would have related to the article a bit more just to get more of an understanding to what you were explaining as a "real wild women" to be in that particular movie that you chosen. Overall, you write very well and look forward to more of your postings! good job :)
Yes, it was interesting reading your post "cheers to the future" due to the fact we had the same subject but yet two different perspectives. I like the way you made your points relate to your examples, they fit very well. You mentioned great technology examples to back up your perspective. You did really good! I think your a good writer and can't wait to read your future postings.
Aubrie: I absolutely love the way you took your topic with the posting "the fracturing of the family" because it is completely different from mine. You give great detail in explaining the growth of our technology and have to agree that technology is definitely alienating us from family members. I cannot even remember the last time we took family pictures! Goes to show how much we rely on technology such as cell phones, computers, etc. You do a job at explaining this!
Sorry to say, but I have not seen the movie Troy yet. Although you gave such good detailed information of the movie that it pictures a great image in my mind. I am for sure going to rent it so that I can expand my image and knowledge of the movie so that I can get a better understanding of your concepts. You did do a good job with the article!
Krista: I like your ideas. You are right that cell phones are every where now a days! I admit I use my phone all the time, without it my day would not function correctly being that its way I communicate personally and work related. You gave good examples of how and why technology is expanding but the only thing I did not see was how it was in relation to gay or lesbian identity. I would have like to see your ideas on this subject and how you would of relate it! You did a good job!:) Look forwarded to more of your postings.
I haven't seen the movie Descent yet but I plan on renting it so I can get a better understanding of how you are relating your concepts and examples together. I think you outlined the movie very well. The outline gives my the ability to view in my mind what the movie would look like. I wish you would have related to the article a bit more just to get more of an understanding to what you were explaining as a "real wild women" to be in that particular movie that you chosen. Overall, you write very well and look forward to more of your postings! good job :)
Thursday, October 1, 2009
Hidden Stories: Capitalism and Gay Identity
In the article Capitalism and Gay Identity, John D'Emilio discusses several good points as well as an interesting viewpoint to the understanding of homosexuality, homosexual identity and capitalism that I have never consider to have had any relation before but find it very interesting. D'Emilio explores the relationship between the rise of capitalism and homosexuality. In the seventeenth century the family was truly an interdependent unit of production. They had farmed land that was owned by the male head of the household where the man, women, and children would all work together to farm their food and produce all the goods they consumed. The home was a workplace, the survival of each member depended on the cooperation of the entire household. Families would have seven children or more to help produce grain because it was necessary for survival. In the nineteenth century people began to sell their labor power and work for wages, thus families were no longer considered an independent unit of production. According to D'Emilio homosexuality was caused by the rise of capitalism. With the ability to find work out side from the home men were no longer having to work at home to tend to farm land, therefore the need to marry or have kids was no longer necessary. D'Emilio says that capitalism had knocked down the material foundation away from family life, thus creating an opening for homosexual identity. Once family households were not seen as a way of survival and instead was seen as a personal choice rather than a requirement is when homosexual identities began to appear in our society.
Throughout the years the American family has changed dramatically. It is obviously that science, technology and capitalism has advanced our American lives. As science and technology enhanced it push away the family structure apart because it gave Americans the means to be independent and free. With the technology that we have today gay and lesbians are capable of getting sex changes done to fit their lifestyle. Gay men are able to adopt kids to create the family like structure they want but with a same sex person. Same for lesbians, they are able to get pregnant using clinics that donate sperm to create that family like structure as well. Homosexuals are like heterosexuals they still want that loving family structure the only difference is their preference. With technology being so advanced homosexuals are able to live a heterosexual-like life being gay or lesbian to what fits there lifestyle.
As I look at today's families things are very different to as they were in the past. People do not have seven or more kids anymore if any children they most likely have two, one or sometimes even none. Marriage does not seem to mean the same as it did when my grandparents got married. Many people have broken families whose parents have split up.I have seen people get married for wrong reasons and quickly divorce in a short time after. A man and woman can be together for along time, have kids and never be married. Even though these families are still families within themselves there just different from past generations. People can argue whether the growth of technology and capitalism is positive or negative but the fact still remains that the growth of each will change society and American lives regardless.
Throughout the years the American family has changed dramatically. It is obviously that science, technology and capitalism has advanced our American lives. As science and technology enhanced it push away the family structure apart because it gave Americans the means to be independent and free. With the technology that we have today gay and lesbians are capable of getting sex changes done to fit their lifestyle. Gay men are able to adopt kids to create the family like structure they want but with a same sex person. Same for lesbians, they are able to get pregnant using clinics that donate sperm to create that family like structure as well. Homosexuals are like heterosexuals they still want that loving family structure the only difference is their preference. With technology being so advanced homosexuals are able to live a heterosexual-like life being gay or lesbian to what fits there lifestyle.
As I look at today's families things are very different to as they were in the past. People do not have seven or more kids anymore if any children they most likely have two, one or sometimes even none. Marriage does not seem to mean the same as it did when my grandparents got married. Many people have broken families whose parents have split up.I have seen people get married for wrong reasons and quickly divorce in a short time after. A man and woman can be together for along time, have kids and never be married. Even though these families are still families within themselves there just different from past generations. People can argue whether the growth of technology and capitalism is positive or negative but the fact still remains that the growth of each will change society and American lives regardless.
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